I find myself in a dilemma. But it’s ok because there is always an answer! (Just don’t know what it is yet.)
My abuelita who raised me had a ‘saying’ for everything. My favorite quote of hers is about life in general and what happens when you focus on dumb stuff:
“If you keep one foot on yesterday and try to put one foot on tomorrow, you’ll shit all over today.”
I sure love my abuelita. ♥ She also had another quote I love:
“In this world, everything except death has a solution.”
So do I live in the ‘now’ or think about my future? Should I upgrade my situation? Should I fix what I have now and try to make it work?
There are so many pro’s and con’s but it really depends on the severity of your personal situation.
Living in the ‘Now’
| Pros | Cons |
| Your risk is lessened. | You are not taking that risk of ‘jumping’ into a new life. |
| You’re probably not going to hurt anyone by staying stagnant. | You’re only hurting yourself, if this is really not where you want to be. |
| You can literally build from where you’re at. | Remember you can only change yourself, not others. |
| Focusing on one thing, the present, will considerably lower your stress level. | Only thinking about the present is limiting your perception of life. |
| You can wait to see if things get better. | Things may never get better and you’ve wasted time waiting. |
Thinking for the Future
| Pros | Cons |
| You are (perceivably) getting out of a bad situation. | …into a worse one. |
| A new beginning awaits you | However you may be hurting others by leaving them behind. |
| New plans can be started or old goals can be put into motion. | The unknown factors of the future tend to have a way to throw wrenches into plans. |
| You have the opportunity to not make the same mistakes of the past. | None! If you keep tripping over the same rock, well then you’ve missed the point. |
As you can tell, I tend to be my own Devil’s Advocate. I don’t consider myself to be negative, but I do try to be a realistic as possible. This is why I find myself in this dilemma. These are the thoughts that run through my head whenever I get ready to make that life altering decision.
I wish life were as simple as tossing a coin, à la Two Face style. In the mean time, here are some excellent articles on decision making:
Stacey Lawson: Principal #1: Live in the Now



