I am a peculiar sort of woman. Peculiar women often have unconventional methods.

Although I find myself having the perceived disadvantage of not only being a Hispanic but also being a woman, I have never suffered any disadvantages or been given any additional pleasantries because of that. Maybe it’s the multicultural region that I live in but it’s mainly because of way I approach life.

If there’s one thing that has been made significantly clear to me is that we’re all equals. Having a vagina makes me no different than anyone else. So naturally, it came as a surprise when I was recently called a ‘feminist’ because I host The Lady Bits Show. Surely not moi, I thought. Although the show is geared towards a female audience, it was never my intention to represent myself as a champion of women’s rights. Not that it would be a bad thing but that’s just not my modus operandi.

The fact of the matter is that wearing a bra does not humiliate me and I am not offended by a man who opens a door for me. I am not here to work for the feminist cause because both men and women are manifestations of the same energy that binds us all. We’re all made of flesh and blood and we all live and die. Being a feminist would mean that I favor one sex over another. It would mean that I find my sex superior than the other. I cannot stand for that.

To push my point a little further, the other day I tweeted at 3:30 in the morning:

I’m a compendium of opposing factors. So man-like, yet so docile; dominant yet submissive; intelligent yet naive and dignified yet course.

I think that sums me up quite nicely. In addition, I find myself hyperactively ambitious…never have I met a female to steady on her ‘grind’ or so they say nowadays. I keep a day job, I’m a single mother and try to stay on top of my freelancing as much as possible (see my Resume to illustrate the point).

Just in the way I live my life, I hold the following tenets to be true:

  • No one deserves handouts. You want something, go after it.
  • Being different doesn’t make you any different. As long as you have the drive, the world is your oyster.
  • It doesn’t matter what you were born with between your legs. Can you command the respect of those around you?
  • Ambition is the key to unlocking your potential and then some.

See? It doesn’t matter whether you’re a beau or a dame, black or white, poor or rich. Each of us can be elevated to new highs if only we strive to be. Feminism is, in my humble opinion, a lack of understanding. It is a way to prove that women are complainers. Instead of standing out there with picket signs, it would be much more productive to concoct an effective plan to elevate to the boardroom and make the decisions yourself.